Succeed By Stopping Smoking For The Right Reasons

And I know that to you, it may seem obvious, but you would be surprised to discover that the why can control your chances of success.

There is a kind of statement beginning with When I. Here are a few examples.

When I make more money, I will no longer worry. When I get a new job, I will be free. When I stop smoking, my partner will stop nagging me. When I give up smoking, my husband will buy me that car he is promising. When I go on holiday, I will be able to relax. When I stop smoking, my boyfriend will be kind to me and will propose. When I quit smoking, my wife, who earns more than me, will respect me. When I lose weight, I will find someone who loves me. When I give up smoking, I will not be so anxious about the possibility of a heart attack or stroke. When I give up smoking, I will no longer worry about getting lung cancer and leaving my children orphaned.

So basically, we tell ourselves that once we have that thing that we need, then we will be happy. However, there are many happy people the world over who are very poor, never go on holiday, or never get a new job. That is because happiness is a state of being, rather than a state dependent on a particular achievement.

There are two ways of giving up smoking. One way involves at least some help to resolve the underlying emotional reasons, and another way does not. Do not get me wrong here; I am not suggesting that you have to spend money or see someone in order to stop smoking, there is also self-help. So let me explain more about the When I driver for stopping smoking. When we reach our goal of giving up smoking by going cold turkey, medication, or habit modification, we are happy for a while, but then there is something else we find ourselves needing. You may know of people who stopped smoking but gained weight overeating, or who became so irritable, they went back to smoking, or who one day out of the blue, picked up a cigarette and started all over again. But when they first stopped, they were happy. They had this great few months of feeling great. What happened? The reason is that we have not solved the root cause behind the need to stop smoking. So we think that stopping smoking wi ll make us happy, but after the initial euphoria subsides, we are on the lookout for something again.